Through a Toddler’s Eyes..

Now that Norah is transforming into this tiny little human, I am really noticing what that ‘innocence of a child’ phrase truly means.

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Her thoughts and observances are so simple.  “Mommy, look- the sky is blue!”  She was SO excited to show me that this morning, and even more thrilled that a crow flew by while we were looking up.  “A bird mommy! a bird!!! it’s FFLY-ing!” (she emphasizes her pronunciation sometimes.. almost like she is teaching me the word… so adorable)   

Well to me- I was not thrilled to see the pesky bird that is constantly scattering our garbage all over the road on garbage day…

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But to Norah–this was exciting/amazing/beautiful!   A black bird flying in the blue sky;  a simplistic picture of her view from our front door.

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I wonder how less stressful our lives would be if we removed a lot of the complicated thoughts and emotions, and observed life like a toddler.

Obviously we cannot be ignorant to the world around us now that we are adults and are aware of issues such as global warming, pollution, forest fires, war.

However, on days I feel overwhelmed in my adult life, I find it very refreshing to look through my toddler’s eyes- to remind us of the simple beauty surrounding us;  to remind us of how exciting it is to discover new things/ideas; to remind us of what truely makes us happy;  to remind us to be silly and laugh often..

 

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P.S. Rock discovery never gets old….

Until next time..T. xx

 

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Don’t Miss “The Window”…

So, it has been a long few weeks– emotionally draining, physically exhausting… dealing with family, work, teething toddler, home maintenance– just life in general.  Most of my family are vacationing in my hometown, which makes me a bit homesick for the town and my family.  Also, I think Josh and I not having a proper vacation together in years is starting to take a toll…

Anyway, life just kind of caught up to me yesterday.  I guess there is only so much before one can run out of steam!

Most days I can push myself pretty far– from 4 or 5am non-stop to 8 or 9 at night.  Last night however, I just KNEW I would not make it to 9pm.  This mama needed a time out!

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I had just finished cleaning up the kitchen and Josh came home from work earlier than normal.  Norah still had awhile to go before bedtime so there was my window of opportunity…and I took it!!

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Here’s a lesson parents–do NOT hesitate.  TAKE that window- even if it is just a 5 minute one!

Anyway, I poured a glass of wine, shut the blinds, climbed right into bed, and completed “vegged” for 20 minutes.  I could not believe how fast I became refreshed from taking that time out!  And I don’t feel guilty at all!

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It’s funny- I always read about not missing ‘that window’ for a baby’s bedtime, but I never thought about MY window! I am going to try and look for those more often… and actually take them, instead of feeling guilty of taking a break.

 

Until next time..T. xx

 

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Toddler Tuesday-Behaviour & Self Care

I have come across a very important lesson in parenting that I really want to share.  It honestly has answered a lot of questions on “how do I parent my child”…

A child’s #1 learning tool is our behaviour.  Children learn by observing how we treat ourselves and others, how we handle situations, how we react.  There is no special club, no top secret tip– it is simply OUR behaviour that will help our children grow into courageous, compassionate adults!

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Toddlerhood has been a HUGE eye opener for this.  At this stage, Norah is just starting to learn how to process/express emotions and feelings, mainly by watching Josh and I:  if we are adaptable, how we handle stress, how we learn from failure, how we appreciate, how we love.

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There is a bit of pressure in that.  This is the responsibility parents should take very seriously!

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sidenote: I totally chose that GIF because it was Chris Pratt.. lol…. you are welcome ladies!

This really has me analyzing myself as an individual too.  How DO I handle stress?  How do I calm myself down to think clearly?  How do I show love?

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Yesterday, Norah had a temper tantrum worthy of a guinness world record, and I definitely did not handle the situation the way I wanted to.  I lost my patience.  I lost my model behaviour.  I was weak.  Why?  The answer is simple- I am lacking in self-care.   

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Before I had Norah, I had a lot of spare time…but now, any spare time is often filled with chores and errands, and I have stopped making even a sliver of time for myself.   I began to think, ‘my family is the most important-I have to put them first’ or ‘that’s the sacrifice of being a mom’.

The truth is- we ALL need self-care to grow as individuals and to continue to love ourselves! (and to RECHARGE!)  

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Just recently, I started planning some upcoming painting/organizing projects (stay tuned- I am very excited!!) and am FINALLY starting to work on decorating the house, one room at a time!  I cannot wait to dedicate some evenings for this!!   Yes, I will probably have to sacrifice some housework, but to put some music on and do something that is passionate to me will be some major self-care for this mama!!

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So my advise today, on this toddler tuesday– is take time for yourself.  Even if it is just for 15 minutes. (errands and bathroom breaks do not count!)  Take a bath, put some photos in an album, paint a picture, build a table, write a blog, whatever you want to do!  Obviously there will be those days of complete exhaustion, but do not ignore the importance of self-care!!

Until next time..T. xx


 

 

Toddler Tuesday: Milestones

After having a baby, I noticed the word ‘milestones’ listed constantly in articles and books- first steps, first words, can hold a toy, can sit on their own.  I honestly wish I didn’t know about most of them, as they can cause a lot of anxiety.   Norah was a late walker- and for awhile, my mind went to the extreme, “what if she never learns to walk!” because she didn’t reach it during a specific timeline.  I don’t like to compare and I struggle with a few of the timeline goals, as many children develop differently- physically, mentally, emotionally.   Norah is 22 months now- and although I notice she has achieved some of the “traditional” milestones (mostly vocabulary) I think it is important to point out the milestones that are not in every child development book- the less traditional ones.

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Here are a few of Norah’s milestones so far:

  1.  First fashionably late appearance–  June 17th 2015, Norah was 11 days past her due date, when she decided to grace us with her presence.  I honestly thought and feared that she wanted to stay in me forever, so I definitely celebrate this milestone…..

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2.  First meltdown for not getting her way-8 months old. I have a video of this so I know exactly when this happened.  She wanted to play with the phone charger cord (she had just started to crawl so I was video taping) and completely fell apart when I said no…

3.  First hotel stay– 6 months.  Christmas in North bay, we stayed in a hotel, and little Norah looked so tiny on the king sized bed..


4.  First Joke– 20 months.  She has started to pretend sleep as a joke (with little fake snoring and all), and then wakes up fast to scare us–she thinks it is hilarious. (we have to play this a million times on the drive home from daycare)

5.  First box of smarties-16 months.  Halloween- used as a bribe to take her picture. (don’t judge-it worked)


6.  First chores-16-18 months.  Norah now helps with unloading the dishwasher (mostly passing things to me, or tossing spoons into the top drawer-she has pretty good aim!) and helps us feed the dogs.  She dusts her toys sometimes too (with a baby wipe) while I dust the furniture.  Folding laundry is another story-it usually ends up all unfolded and on the floor so she can climb in the basket and play…


7.  First flu– a couple of weeks ago! i still think the man flu is worse than the toddler flu….

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8.  First Obsession with the Toilet – 20 months.  One day she just started to talk about the potty/toilet and has not stopped!  “Mommy, are you going potty?” “Can I flush?”  

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9. First pumpkin carving– 16 months.  We gave her a little pumpkin and a spoon, and she dug out some of the seeds! she did pretty well for her first time…

10.  First swear word– 17 months.   Thankfully this was just when she would repeat everything she heard, and we have since cleaned up our vocabulary to prevent any further mishaps.

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Well, this list could go on…. what were some of your children’s funny/memorable/non-traditional milestones?

 

Until next time..T. xx

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