Bedtime & Excuses…

*disclaimer notice* For all of you parents whose children go to bed angelically every single night of the week, you will not relate to this post………….. 

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Well… it’s happened.  Norah has begun the “stalling for bedtime” phase.    I’ve started to notice the changes;  the slow walks to the bedroom, forgetting something in the living room, asking for more than the 3 stories that we read her… etc  (note: I have to switch up the stories now so that she doesn’t notice me skipping pages to hurry the bedtime along… shhh)

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Once Norah is in her crib, (we have not switched to a bed yet… and now I’m scared to) and the lights are out– the bedtime excuses/requests start rolling in.  And they all begin with “Mommy! wait!”

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Here are some examples (the amount in a night can vary…):

  • kiss a “boo-boo” (from 3 weeks ago..)
  • request for water (at least 4 times)
  • cold facecloth for forehead (now up to 3 cloths, one for each hand)
  • needs to be tucked in (again)
  • her dolly needs to be tucked in
  • needs a kleenex for her runny nose
  • couldn’t reach her soother (that was thrown across the room…….)
  • her nightlight stuffed animal is broken (batteries died..)
  • her fingernail hurts (and then requests the nail clippers)
  • her foot is itchy
  • she wants to watch t.v.
  • needs the Dora book, not the Curious George book
  • she can’t find “Yoo-Yoon” (the name of her stuffed Loon….almost as important as her blanky, so a worthy crisis)
  • there’s a mosquito in the room
  • request for milk
  • she needs to feed her dolly

 As I type this out, I realize I have been more than lenient once or twice ūüôĄūüėí, but hey, I’m not a perfect parent…especially when I’m tired! 

Does anyone else have these experiences?  Any funny requests while your child is stalling bedtime?  Please share!  Let’s all laugh and survive parenthood together…

Until next time..T. xx

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Don’t Miss “The Window”…

So, it has been a long few weeks– emotionally draining, physically exhausting… dealing with family, work, teething toddler, home maintenance– just life in general.  Most of my family are vacationing in my hometown, which makes me a bit homesick for the town and my family.  Also, I think Josh and I not having a proper vacation together in years is starting to take a toll…

Anyway, life just kind of caught up to me yesterday.  I guess there is only so much before one can run out of steam!

Most days I can push myself pretty far– from 4 or 5am non-stop to 8 or 9 at night.  Last night however, I just KNEW I would not make it to 9pm.  This mama needed a time out!

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I had just finished cleaning up the kitchen and Josh came home from work earlier than normal.  Norah still had awhile to go before bedtime so there was my window of opportunity…and I took it!!

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Here’s a lesson parents–do NOT hesitate.  TAKE that window- even if it is just a 5 minute one!

Anyway, I poured a glass of wine, shut the blinds, climbed right into bed, and completed “vegged” for 20 minutes.  I could not believe how fast I became refreshed from taking that time out!  And I don’t feel guilty at all!

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It’s funny- I always read about not missing ‘that window’ for a baby’s bedtime, but I never thought about MY window! I am going to try and look for those more often… and actually take them, instead of feeling guilty of taking a break.

 

Until next time..T. xx

 

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From one #momblog to another

I have been wanting to write something in ages, and bc I am just so exhausted from work, house, toddler and unreal exhaustion from what our family is going through right now, there can be a sense of loneliness that can happen..

and frustration. Im too tired to write, but writing gives me peace.

Read this post below; I know this girl. And she is hilarious. and parents need laughter when facing the reality of parenthood.

Laura summed up toddlerhood/parenthood so well! I enjoyed this read. It was what I needed- thanks Laura!!!! XO ‚ėļÔłŹ‚̧ԳŹ

Laura’s blog post

Toddler Tuesday:¬†ÔĽŅMilestones

After having a baby, I noticed the word ‘milestones’ listed constantly in articles and books- first steps, first words, can hold a toy, can sit on their own.  I honestly wish I didn’t know about most of them, as they can cause a lot of anxiety.   Norah was a late walker- and for awhile, my mind went to the extreme, “what if she never learns to walk!” because she didn’t reach it during a specific timeline.  I don’t like to compare and I struggle with a few of the timeline goals, as many children develop differently- physically, mentally, emotionally.   Norah is 22 months now- and although I notice she has achieved some of the “traditional” milestones (mostly vocabulary) I think it is important to point out the milestones that are not in every child development book- the less traditional ones.

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Here are a few of Norah’s milestones so far:

  1.  First fashionably late appearance–  June 17th 2015, Norah was 11 days past her due date, when she decided to grace us with her presence.  I honestly thought and feared that she wanted to stay in me forever, so I definitely celebrate this milestone…..

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2.  First meltdown for not getting her way-8 months old. I have a video of this so I know exactly when this happened.  She wanted to play with the phone charger cord (she had just started to crawl so I was video taping) and completely fell apart when I said no…

3.  First hotel stay– 6 months.  Christmas in North bay, we stayed in a hotel, and little Norah looked so tiny on the king sized bed..


4.  First Joke– 20 months.  She has started to pretend sleep as a joke (with little fake snoring and all), and then wakes up fast to scare us–she thinks it is hilarious. (we have to play this a million times on the drive home from daycare)

5.  First box of smarties-16 months.  Halloween- used as a bribe to take her picture. (don’t judge-it worked)


6.  First chores-16-18 months.  Norah now helps with unloading the dishwasher (mostly passing things to me, or tossing spoons into the top drawer-she has pretty good aim!) and helps us feed the dogs.  She dusts her toys sometimes too (with a baby wipe) while I dust the furniture.  Folding laundry is another story-it usually ends up all unfolded and on the floor so she can climb in the basket and play…


7.  First flu– a couple of weeks ago! i still think the man flu is worse than the toddler flu….

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8.  First Obsession with the Toilet – 20 months.  One day she just started to talk about the potty/toilet and has not stopped!  “Mommy, are you going potty?” “Can I flush?”  

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9. First pumpkin carving– 16 months.  We gave her a little pumpkin and a spoon, and she dug out some of the seeds! she did pretty well for her first time…

10.  First swear word– 17 months.   Thankfully this was just when she would repeat everything she heard, and we have since cleaned up our vocabulary to prevent any further mishaps.

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Well, this list could go on…. what were some of your children’s funny/memorable/non-traditional milestones?

 

Until next time..T. xx

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Toddler Tuesday: Quote

Well, I am a day late- but that is better than two days late, which is what I had initially thought!  (do baby brains every go away?)

Things have been pretty busy- between prepping for Easter (that crept up fast!), ¬†singing practices for the Easter season, flus, teething, colds, and for any accountants out there, you know how crazy quarter end reporting can be (which is of course when I got my turn for the flu…), ¬†there hasn’t been much time for anything else (like cleaning the house…messy house, happy life? lol)

So today I am just posting a quote-a good little reminder that I love:

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Until next time..T. xx

 

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Toddler Tuesday: The Flu

You know, I think there is always a time when one feels unappreciated or not needed.   By your husband, wife, friend, sibling, child, coworker, boss…..

As a new parent, I have come to a realization- there is one time that I will always be appreciated/needed: when my daughter is sick.

She has had a few bad colds and viruses in the past two years, but this past week she got the flu for the first time.  My 21-month old chatterbox woke up one night and could not stop throwing up.  I felt so bad for her- she didn’t know what was happening as she cried in between getting sick.


I suffer from anxiety, and with that I also struggle from OCD, so unfortunately, when someone is sick, I become an extreme germaphobe.  It honestly is a horrible feeling that has increased now that I am a mom- moms can’t get sick! It is one of my hugest battles within my mind and one of the hardest to work through.  I feel crazy as I obsessively wipe every handle, lightswitch, cup, my daughter’s hands, etc. 


That night however, every fear/worry/anxiety went away and I went into mom mode.  Poor Norah did not understand why she was puking and let’s just say she is definitely not at the age to know how to aim into a bowl/bucket.  She would turn towards me for a hug,, clutching to me as she projectile vomited everywhere.  We both went through quite a few pairs of pjs that night!

I’ll never forget her little voice. “Mommy, my tummy hurts.. it hurts…” and I responded while stroking her hair and holding her close, “It’ll be okay sweetie. You are going to be okay”, to which she says quietly, “thank you mommy”, in a relieved tone.

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That moment right there erased all anxiety, OCD, unappreciation, everything!  I could live in that moment forever and will cherish it always.

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So, we survived her first flu and she’s now back to her spitfire self- she bounced back very quickly!  If only adults were as resiliant as toddlers….. guess who caught the flu next? my husband. (hello man flu..)

 

I just hope I don’t catch this…lol

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Until next time..T. xx

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Toddler Tuesday: Temper Tantrums

Well, I don’t know about you other toddler parents, but right now we are in the (to say it lightly) ‘mood swing’ phase.  Also known as the full out Dr. Jekyll/Mr Hyde tantrums.

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For those that do not experience these “mood swings”– JEALOUS.  And also, here is an example of how they work:

It is 6am and I am patiently waiting as Norah makes her 10th attempt at putting on her jacket by herself.  It took 15 minutes to convince her it was time to get her boots on, and we are so close to heading out the door.  She is chatting away, proud of putting the boots on, and I decide to step in (time is not a parent’s friend).  The moment I kindly assist with the one sleeve, Norah runs away, cost dragging behind her, as she screams “No Mommy!!! I do it!!” and stomps her feet.  When I finally get the coat on and have distracted her with the task of giving the dogs their treats before we leave – she is all smiles and excited to get in the vehicle…. 
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How can she be so extremely happy one minute, and so ridiculously mad the next, and then back to happy again?  These tantrums often leave me feeling exhausted and defeated (I find I say this a lot, am I the only mom who feels this way at times?)

Now I know this is just the age of tantrums-  they are learning how to control their impulses and feelings while trying to call the shots and test what they can get away with.   But it’s like they are these mini dictators on PMS!

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I am not going to write a whole post on ‘ways to tackle tantrums’.  Josh and I have come up with a couple of methods that work for us and her tantrums have significantly decreased (and she is actually learning to communicate pretty well). Every child is different and it’s about finding what works for them.  The true comfort is that we are not alone- most toddlers go through this!

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Honestly though, some of these tantrums are for the most ridiculous reasons and sometimes we have to laugh to survive these days.

Just in this past week, here are the reasons why Norah has had a little(or big-the range varies) tantrum:

-because there were no more blueberries at breakfast

-because I was singing the wrong Wiggles song

-because I threw out her dirty diaper when she had wanted to do it herself

-because we had to leave daycare

-because she couldn’t get her coat on by herself

-because I wouldn’t let her brush her teeth for 6 hrs

-because I wouldn’t let her wear her spring jacket (it was -30 out..)

-because her dolly kept falling off her toy lawn mower while she was pushing them around

-because she wanted Josh to help her with her yogurt,  but I helped instead

-because Josh read the wrong “in the night garden” book

-because she wanted the magnet holding up her crayon drawing but didnt want the drawing to fall 

-because she didnt want to say hi to her cousin Jacob

just to name a few….

 

 

P.S.-Is anyone else scared for puberty?

Until next time..T. xx

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Toddler Tuesday: Potty Training

I had a lot of fun writing the Toddler 101 post, so I have decided to dedicate one day a week to the wonderful world of toddlerhood!

Observations, pictures, questions, quotes… it will be as random as a toddler’s mood!

This week’s segment of Toddler Tuesday gears around potty training, as that has become the newest focus for Norah. ¬†Not actually peeing on the toilet, but climbing it, flushing it, and the classic “pull all the toilet paper off the roll” (in which I bunch it all back up and use until it is all gone because toilet paper is not cheap!)

As first time parents, we are going into this potty training business pretty blind. ¬†Every time Norah says “I wanna pee on the toilet”, I just stare at her, admiring her vocabulary, and then realize, oh yeah-she is looking for guidance! ¬†She may not be developmentally ready yet (excluding the talking), but we want to have a game plan for when it is time!(she is still learning to pull her pants up and down…I figure that is an important step…)

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The last time I trained someone to pee, it was my dog 9 years ago… and I’m pretty sure the methods are different…… lol

So what is the best way to potty train? potty seat or floor potty? which type of pull ups? how often does my child have to run around naked? what time is the best time to train? how many wine bottles do I need?¬†(I hear this requires a lot of patience…….)

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I don’t normally read books and guidelines on parenting-I like to learn from the moms around me- real life experiences.(nothing is sugar coated that way…) ¬†I ask my mom, Josh’s mom, my daycare provider (sisters,family, friends) their advice often on all of my parenting dilemmas. ¬†I find the raw truths and experienced tricks extremely¬†helpful!

So, what is the #1 tip for potty training?

Until next time..T. xx

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Toddler Life 101

You know you’re living with a toddler when…

  1. There are crumbs literally everywhere:   in between couch cushions, all over the car, in the carseat, in the bed.. everywhere!! (I have 2 dogs who are quite efficient with the food clean up- and I STILL find crumbs!)
  2. The house has become art:  At least one piece of furniture/wall/door/floor has been coloured on with a crayon or been attacked by stickers
  3. You’ve become an expert at negotiating (and bribery)
  4.  You dread leaving the house to go anywhere:   If it normally takes you 10 minutes to get ready to go out the door, add about 5 hours (toddler mood depending) to give enough time for them to put on their own boots/hat/coat/mitts all by themselves, with no help.  
  5. You know all the words to every Wiggles song (and most actions too..):¬† I’m honestly considering making this into an aerobic workout to do 3 days a week. The actions to these songs are intensely¬†energetic…I’ll be fit in no time!
  6. You automatically sit on the floor when chatting with any friends or family
  7. The house is on lockdown: It is now more difficult to break into the cupboard to get to my cleaning supplies than to rob a bank.  
  8. Sleep-ins are just a distant memory:¬†Waking up at 7am is now the new sleep in.. this being said, parent bedtime is not much later than 9pm! (that’s my limit for pure exhaustion anyway..)¬†
  9. You have said “don’t drink the bath water” at least once a week
  10. You have said “don’t touch” at least 50 times a week
  11. You have become a human vending machine:  I now carry emergency snack supplies in my vehicle, purse, coat, etc!  It has been a saving grace on more than one occasion..
  12. All the lower shelves of bookcases/end tables are empty:  This is just smart.  Unless you like cleaning up glass from broken picture frames, and taking trips to emerg for stitches..
  13. You know all the characters and episodes of Peppa Pig and Dora the Explorer
  14. Bathtime is like the Perfect Storm:  toys and water, everywhere!
  15. You’ve stubbed your toe at least a million times on a toy, toybin, baby gate, etc
  16. You dread daylight savings time..
  17. You cry when reading the book, “I Love You Forever” by Robert Munsch¬†

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Moms-feel free to add more to the list!

Until next time..T. xx

Reflection: Toddlerhood

As I compared pictures of Norah from last year to this year, I realized something- my little baby girl is not a little baby anymore!  Where did that time go?  It feels like yesterday I was carrying her everywhere with me, propping her up with pillows so she could practice sitting, spoon feeding her pureed foods, and (I miss this the most) swaddling her and rocking her to sleep.

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Honestly- where did that time go?

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In what seems like a blur of time, Norah now insists on doing everything on her own.  Her independence in one year astonishes me!!  Bedtime now consists of HER reading to US at least 3 stories (or the same story 3 times..). She only wants to use a fork at dinner (a spoon is so last year), even if it takes an hour to eat 15 peas.  She has to put her boots on with no help, brush her hair with no help (and all of ours-including the dogs),  and go up and down the stairs with no help!

Um hello…am I not needed anymore?  

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The good news is- she has replaced all of the joys that she brought to us as a baby with new, different joys!   She talks a mile a minute- and her little voice is so adorable!  She has gone from unpronounceable words to full sentences in the blink of an eye!   Always asking us questions and imitating our phrases.

She also is mimicking our parenting actions.   I saw her scold Josh with her little pointy finger one day (it is hard not to laugh at those moments) and she now does her complete bedtime routine for her little dolly each night (changing diaper, doing her hair, reading stories, putting on bedtime music)- so cute!

As she continues to change, so do Josh and I as parents.  Trying to evolve as she does.  We are definitely in uncharted territory right now.  Just as we became “baby experts”, Norah transitioned into an entire different realm:  Toddlerhood.

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This is an entire new world to us. For example, we now have to watch what we say at all times (you never realize how much you swear until a child repeats your every word)!  We also have started to hide eating certain snacks (ie chocolate, popcorn) because let’s face it- kids always want to eat what we are eating! (admit it parents- we aren’t the only ones hiding the junkfood!) 

and can we talk about temper tantrums for a moment?  WOW.   I love my daughter with all my heart, even when her little face turns red and her tiny lungs are screeching at me.  Most of these outbursts are due to the difficulty in communicating at that age.  She was an early talker so thankfully those tantrums will be short-lived.

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But then there is the power struggle tantrum.  Battle of the family- Parents vs kid.  Who will give in first!  These are the tough tantrums.  The ones where Josh and I have to help each other to not throw in the towel!  Survival of the fittest.   (I fear these will last a lifetime…..)

There are so many other elements of toddlerhood to expand on, but I think the most important highlight of this stage is the bond we have with Norah and how our love grows each day.

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Next up- potty training….  until next time, T. xx