Bedtime & Excuses…

*disclaimer notice* For all of you parents whose children go to bed angelically every single night of the week, you will not relate to this post………….. 

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Well… it’s happened.  Norah has begun the “stalling for bedtime” phase.    I’ve started to notice the changes;  the slow walks to the bedroom, forgetting something in the living room, asking for more than the 3 stories that we read her… etc  (note: I have to switch up the stories now so that she doesn’t notice me skipping pages to hurry the bedtime along… shhh)

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Once Norah is in her crib, (we have not switched to a bed yet… and now I’m scared to) and the lights are out– the bedtime excuses/requests start rolling in.  And they all begin with “Mommy! wait!”

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Here are some examples (the amount in a night can vary…):

  • kiss a “boo-boo” (from 3 weeks ago..)
  • request for water (at least 4 times)
  • cold facecloth for forehead (now up to 3 cloths, one for each hand)
  • needs to be tucked in (again)
  • her dolly needs to be tucked in
  • needs a kleenex for her runny nose
  • couldn’t reach her soother (that was thrown across the room…….)
  • her nightlight stuffed animal is broken (batteries died..)
  • her fingernail hurts (and then requests the nail clippers)
  • her foot is itchy
  • she wants to watch t.v.
  • needs the Dora book, not the Curious George book
  • she can’t find “Yoo-Yoon” (the name of her stuffed Loon….almost as important as her blanky, so a worthy crisis)
  • there’s a mosquito in the room
  • request for milk
  • she needs to feed her dolly

 As I type this out, I realize I have been more than lenient once or twice 🙄😒, but hey, I’m not a perfect parent…especially when I’m tired! 

Does anyone else have these experiences?  Any funny requests while your child is stalling bedtime?  Please share!  Let’s all laugh and survive parenthood together…

Until next time..T. xx

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Through a Toddler’s Eyes..

Now that Norah is transforming into this tiny little human, I am really noticing what that ‘innocence of a child’ phrase truly means.

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Her thoughts and observances are so simple.  “Mommy, look- the sky is blue!”  She was SO excited to show me that this morning, and even more thrilled that a crow flew by while we were looking up.  “A bird mommy! a bird!!! it’s FFLY-ing!” (she emphasizes her pronunciation sometimes.. almost like she is teaching me the word… so adorable)   

Well to me- I was not thrilled to see the pesky bird that is constantly scattering our garbage all over the road on garbage day…

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But to Norah–this was exciting/amazing/beautiful!   A black bird flying in the blue sky;  a simplistic picture of her view from our front door.

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I wonder how less stressful our lives would be if we removed a lot of the complicated thoughts and emotions, and observed life like a toddler.

Obviously we cannot be ignorant to the world around us now that we are adults and are aware of issues such as global warming, pollution, forest fires, war.

However, on days I feel overwhelmed in my adult life, I find it very refreshing to look through my toddler’s eyes- to remind us of the simple beauty surrounding us;  to remind us of how exciting it is to discover new things/ideas; to remind us of what truely makes us happy;  to remind us to be silly and laugh often..

 

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P.S. Rock discovery never gets old….

Until next time..T. xx

 

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From one #momblog to another

I have been wanting to write something in ages, and bc I am just so exhausted from work, house, toddler and unreal exhaustion from what our family is going through right now, there can be a sense of loneliness that can happen..

and frustration. Im too tired to write, but writing gives me peace.

Read this post below; I know this girl. And she is hilarious. and parents need laughter when facing the reality of parenthood.

Laura summed up toddlerhood/parenthood so well! I enjoyed this read. It was what I needed- thanks Laura!!!! XO ☺️❤️

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Toddler Tuesday: Milestones

After having a baby, I noticed the word ‘milestones’ listed constantly in articles and books- first steps, first words, can hold a toy, can sit on their own.  I honestly wish I didn’t know about most of them, as they can cause a lot of anxiety.   Norah was a late walker- and for awhile, my mind went to the extreme, “what if she never learns to walk!” because she didn’t reach it during a specific timeline.  I don’t like to compare and I struggle with a few of the timeline goals, as many children develop differently- physically, mentally, emotionally.   Norah is 22 months now- and although I notice she has achieved some of the “traditional” milestones (mostly vocabulary) I think it is important to point out the milestones that are not in every child development book- the less traditional ones.

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Here are a few of Norah’s milestones so far:

  1.  First fashionably late appearance–  June 17th 2015, Norah was 11 days past her due date, when she decided to grace us with her presence.  I honestly thought and feared that she wanted to stay in me forever, so I definitely celebrate this milestone…..

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2.  First meltdown for not getting her way-8 months old. I have a video of this so I know exactly when this happened.  She wanted to play with the phone charger cord (she had just started to crawl so I was video taping) and completely fell apart when I said no…

3.  First hotel stay– 6 months.  Christmas in North bay, we stayed in a hotel, and little Norah looked so tiny on the king sized bed..


4.  First Joke– 20 months.  She has started to pretend sleep as a joke (with little fake snoring and all), and then wakes up fast to scare us–she thinks it is hilarious. (we have to play this a million times on the drive home from daycare)

5.  First box of smarties-16 months.  Halloween- used as a bribe to take her picture. (don’t judge-it worked)


6.  First chores-16-18 months.  Norah now helps with unloading the dishwasher (mostly passing things to me, or tossing spoons into the top drawer-she has pretty good aim!) and helps us feed the dogs.  She dusts her toys sometimes too (with a baby wipe) while I dust the furniture.  Folding laundry is another story-it usually ends up all unfolded and on the floor so she can climb in the basket and play…


7.  First flu– a couple of weeks ago! i still think the man flu is worse than the toddler flu….

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8.  First Obsession with the Toilet – 20 months.  One day she just started to talk about the potty/toilet and has not stopped!  “Mommy, are you going potty?” “Can I flush?”  

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9. First pumpkin carving– 16 months.  We gave her a little pumpkin and a spoon, and she dug out some of the seeds! she did pretty well for her first time…

10.  First swear word– 17 months.   Thankfully this was just when she would repeat everything she heard, and we have since cleaned up our vocabulary to prevent any further mishaps.

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Well, this list could go on…. what were some of your children’s funny/memorable/non-traditional milestones?

 

Until next time..T. xx

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Toddler Tuesday: Quote

Well, I am a day late- but that is better than two days late, which is what I had initially thought!  (do baby brains every go away?)

Things have been pretty busy- between prepping for Easter (that crept up fast!),  singing practices for the Easter season, flus, teething, colds, and for any accountants out there, you know how crazy quarter end reporting can be (which is of course when I got my turn for the flu…),  there hasn’t been much time for anything else (like cleaning the house…messy house, happy life? lol)

So today I am just posting a quote-a good little reminder that I love:

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Until next time..T. xx

 

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Toddler Tuesday: The Flu

You know, I think there is always a time when one feels unappreciated or not needed.   By your husband, wife, friend, sibling, child, coworker, boss…..

As a new parent, I have come to a realization- there is one time that I will always be appreciated/needed: when my daughter is sick.

She has had a few bad colds and viruses in the past two years, but this past week she got the flu for the first time.  My 21-month old chatterbox woke up one night and could not stop throwing up.  I felt so bad for her- she didn’t know what was happening as she cried in between getting sick.


I suffer from anxiety, and with that I also struggle from OCD, so unfortunately, when someone is sick, I become an extreme germaphobe.  It honestly is a horrible feeling that has increased now that I am a mom- moms can’t get sick! It is one of my hugest battles within my mind and one of the hardest to work through.  I feel crazy as I obsessively wipe every handle, lightswitch, cup, my daughter’s hands, etc. 


That night however, every fear/worry/anxiety went away and I went into mom mode.  Poor Norah did not understand why she was puking and let’s just say she is definitely not at the age to know how to aim into a bowl/bucket.  She would turn towards me for a hug,, clutching to me as she projectile vomited everywhere.  We both went through quite a few pairs of pjs that night!

I’ll never forget her little voice. “Mommy, my tummy hurts.. it hurts…” and I responded while stroking her hair and holding her close, “It’ll be okay sweetie. You are going to be okay”, to which she says quietly, “thank you mommy”, in a relieved tone.

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That moment right there erased all anxiety, OCD, unappreciation, everything!  I could live in that moment forever and will cherish it always.

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So, we survived her first flu and she’s now back to her spitfire self- she bounced back very quickly!  If only adults were as resiliant as toddlers….. guess who caught the flu next? my husband. (hello man flu..)

 

I just hope I don’t catch this…lol

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Until next time..T. xx

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Happy Friday!

Yay-it’s Friday!!!   I didn’t think we would make it through this week, but we did!

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This week, Josh started his 12 hour shifts (Monday-Friday) so he is pretty exhausted.  He is enjoying his new job though, so.. happy husband, happy life?

The contractors in our basement finally finished the painting and cleaning!  It is now time to finally put the basement back together.  Since it is a blank slate, this is my chance to rearrange–and to set up part of the living room as Norah’s little playroom (hoping to eliminate SOME toys/books scattered throughout the rest of the house)

This week, I managed to squeeze in a yoga session,a singing practice, a facetime call with my parents and nephew, I painted my nails, another facetime call with my sister and nephew, and did some reading (on top of working 40 hrs).   I tried something new (made my own pesto-simple and delicious) and have had some great quality time in the evenings with Norah (minus the tantrums) and the dogs-I haven’t seen too much of Josh, but we have a movie night planned for tonight-providing we can stay awake for it!

I was wondering why I enjoyed this week so much- NO HOUSEWORK!  (aside from cooking and cleaning kitchen..)lazy eyes with clothes everywhere

There was no point cleaning this week since the contractors were trucking in and out of the house (except to wipe the bathroom down a million times due to the extra traffic), and it was hard to get to the laundry room with all of their supplies in the way, so I said, screw it! (doesn’t happen often..)

Our family has started pizza fridays too!  I am loving these- no cooking at the end of a long week is a holiday in itself!

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Ok, it’s time to go relax now..since (let’s be honest…) I will be up early tomorrow despite it being a Saturday….Unless Norah sleeps in?

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Until next time..T. xx

 

Toddler Tuesday: Potty Training

I had a lot of fun writing the Toddler 101 post, so I have decided to dedicate one day a week to the wonderful world of toddlerhood!

Observations, pictures, questions, quotes… it will be as random as a toddler’s mood!

This week’s segment of Toddler Tuesday gears around potty training, as that has become the newest focus for Norah.  Not actually peeing on the toilet, but climbing it, flushing it, and the classic “pull all the toilet paper off the roll” (in which I bunch it all back up and use until it is all gone because toilet paper is not cheap!)

As first time parents, we are going into this potty training business pretty blind.  Every time Norah says “I wanna pee on the toilet”, I just stare at her, admiring her vocabulary, and then realize, oh yeah-she is looking for guidance!  She may not be developmentally ready yet (excluding the talking), but we want to have a game plan for when it is time!(she is still learning to pull her pants up and down…I figure that is an important step…)

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The last time I trained someone to pee, it was my dog 9 years ago… and I’m pretty sure the methods are different…… lol

So what is the best way to potty train? potty seat or floor potty? which type of pull ups? how often does my child have to run around naked? what time is the best time to train? how many wine bottles do I need? (I hear this requires a lot of patience…….)

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I don’t normally read books and guidelines on parenting-I like to learn from the moms around me- real life experiences.(nothing is sugar coated that way…)  I ask my mom, Josh’s mom, my daycare provider (sisters,family, friends) their advice often on all of my parenting dilemmas.  I find the raw truths and experienced tricks extremely helpful!

So, what is the #1 tip for potty training?

Until next time..T. xx

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Farewell to Winter…

Well, here we are mid-March, and even though in my town it has been -30 degrees Celsius the past few days, I honestly feel spring in the air!  The days are getting longer, the sun even feels a bit brighter.  We still have a lot of snow, but I know the grass underneath is eager to grow and spring is ready to make its transformation!


Whenever a season ends, I find myself somewhat nostalgic.   I reflect on the past season, and dream up plans for the upcoming one.  I think back to last year during this time, and compare with this year.. It’s like I need to finalize that chapter before starting a new one.


This past winter was spent really appreciating our families-appreciating the time we have together as life is short.  I found myself having great discussions with my mom about her past and our heritage (I am half Ukrainian) and I am so grateful for that knowledge that I can now pass on to Norah.  I also have been learning a lot from Josh’s mom- Josh’s childhood, her childhood- stories that should be written down and permanently captured!


Our life has comparatively changed in one year.  Last winter we had a wonderful Christmas. Josh’s parents slept over and we all celebrated Norah’s first Christmas together, matching red and black plaid pajamas and all! Josh, Norah and I then spent our first time in a hotel together as we adventured to North Bay to celebrate Christmas there with my family.  So many wonderful memories.


This winter has been different.  Josh’s mom became seriously ill in August, so these winter months have been very quiet.  We have been facing challenges and emotions that we have never had to deal with before- which has tested our Faith, the strength of our marriage, and for Josh especially- personal trials of hardship.


Thankfully, there still has been laughter and many fun-filled family gatherings  (which I tried to capture on film to create permanent memories).   Raclette dinners with my family, game/movie nights with my husband, spontaneous evenings with friends.. but one memory really stands out to me the most- Christmas Eve morning.  



What started off as a morning coffee visit at Josh’s Uncle’s house became an impromptu pyjama party, with many family members popping in to say hello throughout the day.  Josh’s mom was pretty under the weather that day, but there she was (she is such a trooper), with us all, laughing at Norah’s little charismatic attitude and wishing everyone a Merry Christmas.  I really feel everyone needed that boost that day.  I saw it in my husband’s eyes-a glimpse of happiness through the clouds of worry and stress.

So winter has had its challenges, but we managed to fill the gaps with laughter, love, memories, family, friends…and now it’s time to say goodbye to winter! 


As for spring- I think I will write about that once I see green grass, dry pavement, and unfrozen lakes!

Until next time..T. xx

 

 

International Women’s Day

As today is International Women’s day, I feel I should write about it.  “It” not being about equality between male and female, or about women’s rights.  Those are very important topics, but there is something I would like to add.   I’d like to address an issue that myself as a woman has been experiencing a lot these days.

I am a full-time working professional. I went to University, got a degree, and have been working at the same company for the past 10 years.  I work for a mining company which, like most “male-oriented” industries these days, actually employs a lot of women.  There are still some challenges working in the mining industry and I still find myself having to prove myself professionally- not just to the men, but to the women I work with too!

I have been doing the same role for the past 8 out of the 10 years at my company, and I am a very hard worker.  Until this year (I’m still trying to figure out my professional/mom balance), I used to stay late, work weekends, and always find ways to help my team.  I have put in my time (and then some) and gained a lot of experience, yet, at times, I don’t feel equal among my female peers.

With women, I find there is a competitiveness against each other that arises in the workplace.  And working for a small company, it is very easy to feel excluded.  We should be supportive of each other and encouraging success together!

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The other half of my life is motherhood.  What an eye opener!  I have never witnessed so much judgement or felt so much pressure than I have in the past 2 years on the topic of being a “good” mother.  Again, women making other women feel unequal.

There are so many opinions today on how to raise your child- breastfeed or formula, private or public daycare, co sleep or bassinet;  What is the “correct” sleep training method?  What is the “proper” disciplinary method?

As a new mother, I am more stressed no thanks to all the articles, opinions, and studies out there.   Who cares if my daughter was formula fed, is in a private daycare, and sleeps in a crib?  She is a happy child thriving on life!  

Being a mother is by far the toughest job, in my opinion!  Most days it is about surviving, and it is even more hard to try and survive alone.  There should be zero judgement and only support, because motherhood is not easy, especially through the tough times (and there are many)!

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Basically, my fight today is for women to support other women.  To encourage each other.  To help each other.  To set a good example to our children and to represent women proudly.  

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Anyway…just my thoughts. 

Until next time..T. xx