I have come across a very important lesson in parenting that I really want to share. It honestly has answered a lot of questions on “how do I parent my child”…
A child’s #1 learning tool is our behaviour. Children learn by observing how we treat ourselves and others, how we handle situations, how we react. There is no special club, no top secret tip– it is simply OUR behaviour that will help our children grow into courageous, compassionate adults!
Toddlerhood has been a HUGE eye opener for this. At this stage, Norah is just starting to learn how to process/express emotions and feelings, mainly by watching Josh and I: if we are adaptable, how we handle stress, how we learn from failure, how we appreciate, how we love.
There is a bit of pressure in that. This is the responsibility parents should take very seriously!
sidenote: I totally chose that GIF because it was Chris Pratt.. lol…. you are welcome ladies!
This really has me analyzing myself as an individual too. How DO I handle stress? How do I calm myself down to think clearly? How do I show love?
Yesterday, Norah had a temper tantrum worthy of a guinness world record, and I definitely did not handle the situation the way I wanted to. I lost my patience. I lost my model behaviour. I was weak. Why? The answer is simple- I am lacking in self-care.
Before I had Norah, I had a lot of spare time…but now, any spare time is often filled with chores and errands, and I have stopped making even a sliver of time for myself. I began to think, ‘my family is the most important-I have to put them first’ or ‘that’s the sacrifice of being a mom’.
The truth is- we ALL need self-care to grow as individuals and to continue to love ourselves! (and to RECHARGE!)
Just recently, I started planning some upcoming painting/organizing projects (stay tuned- I am very excited!!) and am FINALLY starting to work on decorating the house, one room at a time! I cannot wait to dedicate some evenings for this!! Yes, I will probably have to sacrifice some housework, but to put some music on and do something that is passionate to me will be some major self-care for this mama!!
So my advise today, on this toddler tuesday– is take time for yourself. Even if it is just for 15 minutes. (errands and bathroom breaks do not count!) Take a bath, put some photos in an album, paint a picture, build a table, write a blog, whatever you want to do! Obviously there will be those days of complete exhaustion, but do not ignore the importance of self-care!!
Until next time..T. xx